- Jul 31, 2016
The myth of the happy slave, polygamist corollary.
That more or less sums up my overall opinion as well.
These may be "consenting adults", but I don't think the situation these two women find themselves in, is something they wished for. It's certainly something the husband wishes for - that's fairly obvious. What makes this situation intriguing to me, is how an out-of-context religious framework is wrapped around the whole process to not only legitimize the actions, but as a tool to manipulate these somewhat timid, and not-so-willing young ladies.
At the end of the day, it's worthwhile to understand how this segment of the population thinks. If I'm going to live in Indonesia, it stands to reason that I may meet someone who lives this lifestyle some day. It's good to know about the religious context, and the uniquely Indonesian cultural nuances.
"Polygamy nearly always means rich men taking multiple wives. And if the top 10% of men marry four women each, then the bottom 30% cannot marry at all"
Still, I cannot in good conscience forbid the activities of consenting adults.
There really are well adjusted people who have made a decision to have polygamous relationships. Not all, not even most, of these relationships are based on coercion. Muslim women today and yesterday have always had the right to seek a divorce and have historically done so for a variety of reasons.
What consenting, the key word here, adults do behind closed doors is their business. Objecting to consenting adults engaging in polygamy is like objecting to gay marriage. Because it's outside of the established, but no more so valid, norm of monogamy it is reviled. There are compelling reasons why individuals should reject it for themselves, but not to dictate to others how to live their own lives.
Which is probably why Christianity allows only one wife so there are enough to go around. Maintains a calmer society?
Where in the Bible (old or new) does it say that you can only have one wife? Or when you say Christianity you mean the rules that the church leaders made over the time since Jesus was no longer with us.