Dating

[Linochka]

I don't understand why you need to hide.

 

[Teabag]

Ten years ago I was looking for a serious girlfriend. She was looking for a husband. I was not looking for a wife. I’m married now...

Same here, 30 years ago, I just wanted to go out a night, have fun, maybe talk to a girl or so, you know.....

Now I'm married since ages, have 2 wonderful adult kids and I'm about to migrate to Indonesia next Year.

 

[Teabag]

Hi everyone,

I'm a Physics teacher from the UK (40 years old) and I've just been offered a job at an international school in Surabaya. I've also been offered a good job in China but I'm more attracted to the weather, location and the ease of learning Bahasa Indonesia. I've been living abroad for many years now and I just want to settle down. I want to call the next country I live in 'home'. However, my main and ultimate goal is to find a wife.

*It's important that I find someone well-educated (preferably educated in the West), with a liberal, open perspective on the world. How difficult is my mission?

Can someone please give me a rundown on what to expect dating in Surabaya/Indonesia? If anyone has any experience of China, that would be great too. Should I choose Surabaya over China if finding a wife like this is my goal?

Oh dear, if you really choose the country of your future based on the chances for a wife, and also require an education that is not available in the country, then I wonder how that is supposed to work in the long term.

How about: Interests, respect for each other's culture, love, a common goal, and lots of conversations?

For a functioning, long-lasting marriage between two cultures, it takes a lot of soft-skills not a degree at a top university.

Have you ever thought that your opposite can also develop?

A little tip, if your lady of hearts is fluent in English, there is a good chance that she is also educated. As long as you don't go looking for a bride in the deepest jungle you'll find somebody suitable, if you're willing to get involved with the person.

If education is that important to you, then look for a business partner and not a woman.

 

[snpark]

Since this post is almost 3 years old and the OP never replied one could assume he was either a troll or already married and settled down with Ms Chan or Lucy Wong or Suzy Tang

 

[john madden]

Or Jane White or Jill Park or Jean Madden

 

[snpark]

Millie O'Nair or Penny Less

 

[Teabag]

Since this post is almost 3 years old and the OP never replied one could assume he was either a troll or already married and settled down with Ms Chan or Lucy Wong or Suzy Tang

Doesn't matter, I just need more posts to enter the CAGE....

 

[snpark]

Doesn't matter, I just need more posts to enter the CAGE....

More posts but less morals

 

[snpark]

Less morals because there ain't mushroom inside
Unless you're a fun guy (funghi)

 

[ChrisTex]

More posts but less morals

Hey now. We aren't tottenhm supporters so we still have some morals

 

[snpark]

Hey now. We aren't tottenhm supporters so we still have some morals

Mind the GAPS

 

[Banana72]

Less morals because there ain't mushroom inside
Unless you're a fun guy (funghi)

Gotta admit sometimes the conversation can get out of hand in there and then shiitake hits the fan...

 

[ChrisTex]

It just goes to show we can be serious and not so serious.

 

[nardo]

I agree it's the luck of the draw. I managed to find a good one.. you have to get on the ground and be in the right place at the right time.. life and love are adventures. I have many friends who have been ripped off from online dating. Just come and try your luck in real life . Don't limit yourself to narrow guidelines... It could be that a secretary or cleaner from the other side of the tracks or someone well educated and heeled is your destiny. .. if it is gods will , you will find her.