Patriotism is far from what is being taught in any school here. Nationalism is the proper word for it. Patriotism is not taught, it is absorbed into the hearts.
It's been a while since I was in the public school system in the US as a student (since the early 80s, when I graduated from high school ... not including time in public universities and colleges subsequently), but in my experience and appraisal from a total of about nine years spent in those institutions, what we got in school was, to put it in your words, "not patriotism, but nationalism": pledge of allegiance, USA is great, greater and greatest, lainlain. American and World history classes and textbooks certainly glossed over most or many of American boo-boos and in some cases outright lied or "creatively" interpreted the "facts".
In other words, most of what we got was certainly nationalistic propaganda and in some cases essentially almost a form of brainwashing. So how do you reckon the case is any different with Indonesia, if you do in fact think it is so?
I don't fault my wife for having been influenced in her thinking by all her years in the Indonesian school system and all the nationalistic propaganda she absorbed there - maybe some of it true, certainly some of it not - because I was also subjected to many years of similar brainwave bombardment in and about my own country.
I may try to "correct" her thinking or at least give her food for thought and awareness of a different point of view about such things as, for example, the purges of 65 / 66, but if she remains entrenched in her thinking, I can at least understand why it is so.
The normalized practice of such propagandizing, promoting and pushing of nationalistic pride or "exceptionalism" however, does not preclude persons of whatever country having genuine reasons to feel proud of their country, its people, at least some parts of its history and accomplishments (of course, according to rabbit, in Indonesia's case there are simply no historical moments, characteristics, achievements or accomplishments to feel proud of ... but my wife and millions of other Indonesians seem to disagree, and you know what? Yeah, she knows the Indonesian national soccer team has been pretty crap ... but she still supports them anyway! Some like rabbit might call that simple stupidity or lack of logical thinking. To me it is more an indication of some of typical Indonesian characteristic like patience, tolerance and forgiveness.
