sorry if i am out of topic, but generally Indonesian people or Asian in general is family oriented people, they do anything to help families member, they come with benefit and some cost of privacy.
ask your wife family about the idea you moved here, so you have an idea, what kind of support you get here, especially your in-law i am sure they wanted to spoiled rotten their grandchild's.
my point is your family will not be alone here, you still have an extended family and they mostly will be happy to help you in anything, as long you maintain good relation with them.
Yes I think in contrast my wife finds the space that western families give is a bit isolating for her. My family love her and the kids, but they are not around every day.
