I understand why you felt waarmstrong had offended me, I appreciate your thoughtfulness. Davita is right, nevertheless, it is a general statement, so no apology is necessary. For me, I imagine we are having dinner on the same table (you, me, waarmstrong, and Davita), I started the conversation, then waarmstrong opined (if he is not being concise) “I will not believe the story if I were you, what if the story he told you was fabricated by him or by the person who told him, it’s second-hand and unsubstantiated”. Under this circumstance, I can imagine no one will feel slighted or offended.
Anyway, if only first-hand experience is to be shared here by 200+ members, I don’t think there will be any story (actually, I hope there will be none from forum members, ever). If we share stories already in the news, it can still be helpful as there may be some who haven’t read about the news. But I think sharing second-hand stories should also be encouraged as I believe there are many cases not reported to the police or in the newspaper. There are all kinds of reasons for not going to the police, including the victim’s race, religion, social status, and issues with time, money, etc.