Gathering support and contacts in Jakarta

You feel responsible for making her pregnant? Last I heard it took two to get that to happen. Responsible for a pregnancy she elected to abort? Are you even sure she was pregnant to begin with? Then the claim of getting an abortion you paid for and then a guy that immediately says he will support the kid but she still gets an abortion? Give me a freaking break. You are trying to blame yourself for everything and she is encouraging you to do just that. 500 Sing dollars is probably more than her husband makes in a month and definately something that would do better good for the offspring you have that were not aborted. You say your wife hasn't had sex with you for years. You do realize that that problem just may be with you. You suck in bed and now you found someone that tells you how great you are between the sheets. Of course, those encounters normally end with solicitation of funds for this or that problem.

You need to just get a grip, look at the handwriting on the wall, see her for who she is. You have been fooled and led to the darkness that is here many times according to the experiences of posters here, facebook, and people I knew personally. There are many women here that know how to play this game and it could very well be that you are not alone in her game.

Get away. Run away. Stop all contact. She isn't calling because she wants you to worry. It is part of the game. Feel sorry for them. Get scared for their safety. What you are dealing with is an expensive peice of ass. Last I heard Sing offers 100 dollar good times. You would save money but I think if anyone makes you feel good, you are going to proclaim your ever lasting love for them and offer big tips. They will take them too. Just what you are involved with now. Move on. Not worth it. You are wasting you time and energy.
 
Did I read something about another daughter in these ramblings, a daughter she misses so much?
 
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Ernest Chay said:
What I have posted here is 100% true. I am not rich. I did not touch on the subject of money because I felt that 500 sgd on average per mth is not an unreasonable amount to spend on a gf's spending money.

I guess I am attracting a lot of negative reviews on this matter, simply by not giving up till this point. Dont get me wrong, I know I deserve a slap in the head. But I felt responsible, for making her pregnant, for not being there when she needed me the most. For the first few months of our relationship, I lied to her I am divorced. The very moment I chose to disclose it was to hurt her, when I was jealous about her past relationship.

Another reason why I am so sure this isnt about money is, the monster is not rich. He is a technician, shorter than her with average looks. I know I am giving myself excuses to hold on to something most deemed a lost cause, but as bro fastpitch17 puts it, oh well.

Doing nothing all day, chain smoking and just waiting for her call is indeed torturing and destructive. I know I will stand back up, some day, some how. Thank you all for your kind and equally effective not so kind messages.
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I like your way, pls dont change. Please folks out there… make a note. SGD 500/month at least for your girl friend. Don’t be a cheapo.. gotta show this to my BF. He only give occasionally, only when I ask! Urggghhhh!!
 
Ernest Chay said:
Hey, just becos the gunners suck does not give you the right to mock me.... juz kidding, I am a gunners fan too.
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You have never heard of that tiny team that has a stadium in a toilet and hasn't won the league since the days of black and white tv have you.
 
Missnaughty said:
I like your way, pls dont change. Please folks out there… make a note. SGD 500/month at least for your girl friend. Don’t be a cheapo.. gotta show this to my BF. He only give occasionally, only when I ask! Urggghhhh!!
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I am truly sorry if I had offended anybody. I am just trying to paint an accurate picture of what happened. At the end of the day if it turns out she is really playing with me, I have to accept what it is and move on.
 
Ernest Chay said:
I did not touch on the subject of money because I felt that 500 sgd on average per mth is not an unreasonable amount to spend on a gf's spending money.
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500 SGD = 5.244.000 IDR

That is a substantial monthly income in Indonesia. You are being played. Try cutting off the money for a few months and see if her love for you changes.
 
macvert said:
& he wears cheap shoes from Walmart, sorry MissN couldn't resisti what I remember you once said ...:LOL:
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I like to do my math here. It’s about my bf. since he wears shoes from Wal Mart and buys everything else there, he should have been able to save and send me $500 per month. Or.. He just doesnt have the money therefore he buys things in wal-mart and have no $500 to send to me.. 🙄 I really really need to look into this.
 
Ernest Chay said:
I am truly sorry if I had offended anybody. I am just trying to paint an accurate picture of what happened. At the end of the day if it turns out she is really playing with me, I have to accept what it is and move on.
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Oh dear.. no .. not at all. You did not offend anyone. You are doing the right thing. I think $500 is an okay amount for “happiness”.. even if she is playing you… 🤗
 
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