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You are so right. In fact, my rule in the US is "Don't talk about having household staff. Just don't."
We were lucky in that when we were young and innocent, we moved from the US to Micronesia (our first time abroad - and no staff there). Our American neighbors had been posted to Thailand before Micronesia, and often told stories they thought were amusing about their Thai staff. As good liberals who had never lived abroad, we were horrified and judgmental. Now I know better, of course. But the experience taught me a good lesson, which is that people "back home" are unlikely to understand that having staff doesn't mean you are a pretentious twit at best, exploiter of the masses at worst.
Yes, we never introduce the subject, but it does come up as a question now and then, especially when people see our pictures from Indonesia. "Who's that behind the wheel ... in the kitchen ... opening the gate ... etc?" Often the response is the equivalent of a raised eyebrow, especially in frugal, small town Pella where having domestic employees congers up thoughts of a British miniseries set in a bygone era or pre-bellum southern society.

How did I miss that post until now?