Child Custody- 15 year old daughter

[pantaiema]

Hello everyone, I have a 15 year old daughter living in Depok with my ex and for the past 10 years I have struggled to keep in touch and see my child because of her mother. I want to see my options to take her to court to first get my rights as a father, to be able to talk to my daughter without her mother threatening her and secondly to see if I can get custody of my teenager.

I did visit last year without informing her mother and just showed up at the house and was able to spend some much needed time with my daughter. But since coming back her mother has started preventing us from communicating and has told me not to visit anymore.

I am not an Indonesian.

Are there any good lawyers with child custody experience that anyone can recommend?

My daughter has told me she wants to come live with me in the US.

Any help and guidance would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

Not many expatriates face custody disputes in Indonesia, and the expat community here is relatively small. Therefore, if you're seeking recommendations based on personal experiences within this community, it's unlikely you'll receive many, if any at all.

However, searching for "family lawyers Indonesia" will yield numerous options. Once you've narrowed down your choices, you can then further examining their reviews.

One of the sponsors of this forum, "Wijaya & Co," as shown in the banner above specializes in mixed marriages and may be worth contacting.

Regarding your situation, your daughter is currently 15 years old. As mentioned earlier, in a few years, she'll reach legal adulthood and has the freedom to make decision on her own. In some cases a waiting game might work to your advantage.

As the father, you're obligated to provide child support according to your ability, regardless of who holds the custody. It's unclear if you've fulfilled this responsibility thus far, but if not, it could impact custody proceedings in court.

 

[Shadrach]

Not many expatriates face custody disputes in Indonesia, and the expat community here is relatively small. Therefore, if you're seeking recommendations based on personal experiences within this community, it's unlikely you'll receive many, if any at all.

However, searching for "family lawyers Indonesia" will yield numerous options. Once you've narrowed down your choices, you can then further examining their reviews.

One of the sponsors of this forum, "Wijaya & Co," as shown in the banner above specializes in mixed marriages and may be worth contacting.

Regarding your situation, your daughter is currently 15 years old. As mentioned earlier, in a few years, she'll reach legal adulthood and has the freedom to make decision on her own. In some cases a waiting game might work to your advantage.

As the father, you're obligated to provide child support according to your ability, regardless of who holds the custody. It's unclear if you've fulfilled this responsibility thus far, but if not, it could impact custody proceedings in court.

I separated from my kids mom when they were quite young six and three. We were living on a tract of land which was large enough for several families with their own houses. We were sharing the land, garden, horses, milk cow, chickens, etc. The mother decided to leave and go back to school to become a doctor's assistant. We both agreed it would better in the beginning if the kids remained with me. It was rough but with the help of all the other families, kids, Moms, and Dad's, it wasn't that traumatic for my kids. We decided that the needs of the children always comes first, and not let our emotions get in the way of doing what was best, for them. They stayed with me on the farm and later when she had a home and a good paying job, we shared the kids, six months with me then six months with her. As I look at it now we were all lucky that anger, jealousy, greed didn't come between us, like so many other people separating. Eventually I started coming to Asia creating an import business. She became the boss of a clinic and started making good money, so since I traveled so much and didn't make much money she payed for the kids and they stayed with her to have a stable lifestyle. When they stayed with me I supported them and when they stayed with her she supported them. We were lucky to have a situation like that. That's long ago now and everyone is doing well.
Good luck to you with your ex wife and daughter. And it all becomes peaceful and loving!