Magnum3455
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Hello,
I’m new here because I need your help and advice.
I’ve been browsing the internet now for hours and still couldn't find an answer.
First my story. I wanna make it as short as possible:
I’m 28 years old from Germany and 1,5 years ago I met a woman from Indonesia (on an internet chat). I visited Indonesia last January for 1 month to meet her and her family to really wanna make sure if I want to marry her. Everything was great and we decided to get married (Yes we have the same religion). Of course it was not that casual, we’ve been talking every day and we are sure that we wanna be together but thats not the topic here now.
Initially the plan was to live in Germany and some years later move to Indonesia. During the past months we figured out that it makes no sense that we live in Germany due to the ridiculously high costs of living and some other things that would bother us here. For us it would be much better to live in Indonesia for many personal reasons and not even waste time and money here in Germany including the visa procedure.
I already have saved up enough money to buy a house in Indonesia and I’ve been learning Bahasa Indonesia for some moths. So I thought that I was almost set, I just wanted to wait until the Corona crisis is over and then I would be ready to move there.
Now my problem:
I found out that I cannot legally work there even if I’m married to her. I found out quite late because I have never thought of that there would be a problem. From Europe I’m used to that there are no restrictions in terms of working when you are married to a citizen, so I naively never wasted any thoughts on that.
One of the main reasons why I wanted to move to Indonesia was because I wanted to open a small business as a freelancer. I don’t think it is important what exactly because if I’m not allowed to legally work there, there might not even a point in working there at all because I probably have to work for many many years to come and I might have to change my profession or whatever I wanna do there. But under such circumstances I cannot plan to stay there for the rest of my life and earn money that way. It might work on the short term but it has no sustainability.
I wanna live normally with my house and wife and work. I don’t leave my country to have a more complicated live that I already have here.
Yes I have read that it’s like a grey zone to be a freelancer but seriously, I cannot build my future on ‘being in a grey zone and stay inconspicuous as possible’. I just cannot leave everything behind and start over under such circumstances. My business that I wanna do can’t work under such conditions and it’s not the way I wanna life.
I wanted to move to Indonesia to start a new life and do the things that I cannot do here but now I found out this.
Has anyone help or advice for me?
You have much more experience and I bet I’m not the first person facing this dilemma.
I don’t know it feels like my dream shattered because I was really looking forward to moving and living there.
How risky is this all?
Of course I still wanna marry this woman but this all is not going to make it easier for us.
I’m new here because I need your help and advice.
I’ve been browsing the internet now for hours and still couldn't find an answer.
First my story. I wanna make it as short as possible:
I’m 28 years old from Germany and 1,5 years ago I met a woman from Indonesia (on an internet chat). I visited Indonesia last January for 1 month to meet her and her family to really wanna make sure if I want to marry her. Everything was great and we decided to get married (Yes we have the same religion). Of course it was not that casual, we’ve been talking every day and we are sure that we wanna be together but thats not the topic here now.
Initially the plan was to live in Germany and some years later move to Indonesia. During the past months we figured out that it makes no sense that we live in Germany due to the ridiculously high costs of living and some other things that would bother us here. For us it would be much better to live in Indonesia for many personal reasons and not even waste time and money here in Germany including the visa procedure.
I already have saved up enough money to buy a house in Indonesia and I’ve been learning Bahasa Indonesia for some moths. So I thought that I was almost set, I just wanted to wait until the Corona crisis is over and then I would be ready to move there.
Now my problem:
I found out that I cannot legally work there even if I’m married to her. I found out quite late because I have never thought of that there would be a problem. From Europe I’m used to that there are no restrictions in terms of working when you are married to a citizen, so I naively never wasted any thoughts on that.
One of the main reasons why I wanted to move to Indonesia was because I wanted to open a small business as a freelancer. I don’t think it is important what exactly because if I’m not allowed to legally work there, there might not even a point in working there at all because I probably have to work for many many years to come and I might have to change my profession or whatever I wanna do there. But under such circumstances I cannot plan to stay there for the rest of my life and earn money that way. It might work on the short term but it has no sustainability.
I wanna live normally with my house and wife and work. I don’t leave my country to have a more complicated live that I already have here.
Yes I have read that it’s like a grey zone to be a freelancer but seriously, I cannot build my future on ‘being in a grey zone and stay inconspicuous as possible’. I just cannot leave everything behind and start over under such circumstances. My business that I wanna do can’t work under such conditions and it’s not the way I wanna life.
I wanted to move to Indonesia to start a new life and do the things that I cannot do here but now I found out this.
Has anyone help or advice for me?
You have much more experience and I bet I’m not the first person facing this dilemma.
I don’t know it feels like my dream shattered because I was really looking forward to moving and living there.
How risky is this all?
Of course I still wanna marry this woman but this all is not going to make it easier for us.