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Chatting with an English expat friend in Indonesia some time ago he was explaining to me the occasional bouts of frustration he experiences having the mother and father in-laws and wife's brother living with him in his home, as well as the many other family members that stay for a few days periodically. Fortunately he has quite a large house which allows him to live between two rooms on the second level, maintaining some distance between him and life's little dramas that frequent down stairs. But often he can't avoid the inconveniences of living with the extended family.
Often the brother-in-law will borrow his scooter and not return it when he says he will, fuel tank always empty. The father-in-law drinks too much making a racket and asks him regularly for money. There's the many other relatives that are often in the house dropping around to say hi and staying for days which causes his food bill to be much more than it should be. And of course the other requests from family for a new fridge, loans or whatever is needed by them all.
He's a generous guy, got plenty of money and takes it all on mostly without much complaint, but I feel for him somewhat as I'd personally find it difficult to attend to everyone, no doubt lacking a little decorum in the process.
It caused me wonder if perhaps any members here on Expat Indo live with extended families and how they might negotiate what may be delicate living situations.
Often the brother-in-law will borrow his scooter and not return it when he says he will, fuel tank always empty. The father-in-law drinks too much making a racket and asks him regularly for money. There's the many other relatives that are often in the house dropping around to say hi and staying for days which causes his food bill to be much more than it should be. And of course the other requests from family for a new fridge, loans or whatever is needed by them all.
He's a generous guy, got plenty of money and takes it all on mostly without much complaint, but I feel for him somewhat as I'd personally find it difficult to attend to everyone, no doubt lacking a little decorum in the process.
It caused me wonder if perhaps any members here on Expat Indo live with extended families and how they might negotiate what may be delicate living situations.
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