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OK, We know someone, not close or anything but as she described things to my wife, we had to sit back and wonder, what the hell.
Friend is female. Married for 10 years. She is now 25, has a 9 year old boy and 4 year old girl. She and her family live in a small home that is connected to her parents house. Lived there since married.
Husband went and stayed with his mother in another part of town for almost 2 weeks. Last week her husband came home and told her he was going to take a second wife. Friend said absolutely not. Husband came back with his mother threatening her if she didn't allow it. She stood her ground and said he would have to divorce her to get married again. Mother said no problem and while insulted her saud plenty of pretty women where she lives which sounded like the husband hadn't even found the new lucky woman. RT got involved and chased the husband and his mother away. Now, husband says he is divorcing her and she is glad.
That's basically the relationship background. What's confusing?
Girl had worked for an Indonesian man for 3 years as a housekeeper. 2 years in he son became very ill and was hopitalized. Bill came to a little over 5 juta. The guy she worked for offered to help her and her husband encouraged her to take the help offered. She did and signed a repayment contract. She is uneducated and it ended up being a contract from hell. She did not get paid her 1.25 juta per month for 2 years as repayment. After that he was demanding another 23 juta to pay it off because that is the interest she agreed to. This guy would come to her house every week yelling and screaming outside her home where everyone could hear. She paid him what she could every week. He wanted the paperwork for her mothers house but she was smart enough to say no way. He took her key. Husband never paid a single rupiah towards it saying it was her loan. Husband makes 1 juta a month. RT again gets involved and payoff is now 1.5 juta. She raised that and former employer was to return the next day to get it from her and the RT. He never showed so she has the 1.5 juta and is keeping if and when he returns. She did contact the police about it but they wanted some cash up front to look into it. She is now prepared to finally end this harassment.
Now the weird part. Parents were paid a dowry from the husbands family and oarents basically sold her when she was 15. The only girl. Now that she is getting a divorce her father told her that he has arranged for her to have a new husband as soon as the divorce is final. The father is being paid quite a bit for her, again. The new guy has one wife and is 70 years old but hey, he has money. She told her father that she had no plans to remarry at this time and just wants to build a life for her and her children. Father wasn't going for that and has already given his permission to the new husband to be, for a price of course.
She us now trying to find a kos away from where her family lives. Since she has said she has no plans to remarry, she has been beaten by her drug using older brother and insulted by a younger brother who both live at home and she does their laundry and feeds them. One other older married brother came back from Java and basically put her down very badly. Strange thing since while her father works 500 rebu a month and her mother works, 1.5 juta a month, she pays the bills and does all laundry for everyone. Feeds most daily. She does this by working a number of odd jobs around her neighborhood. None of her brothers give a single rupiah to her parents. The drug user has no job, the younger one cleans ACs.
Evidently at this time she is staying with a friend. Family has contacted about everyone they know of who knows her about her wearabouts. If anyone does know they don't seem to be admitting it to them.
My question would be, if she was married and gets divorced, would that not make her a single oarent who is Independent of her parents? How can a parent be allowed to basicall sell and then resell their daughter? A daughter they never supported and she basically supported much of their needs. I think the parents are seeing the cash as well as the brothers and feel they can take these liberties.
Just another reason I feel girls need a lot more support and opportunities here.
Friend is female. Married for 10 years. She is now 25, has a 9 year old boy and 4 year old girl. She and her family live in a small home that is connected to her parents house. Lived there since married.
Husband went and stayed with his mother in another part of town for almost 2 weeks. Last week her husband came home and told her he was going to take a second wife. Friend said absolutely not. Husband came back with his mother threatening her if she didn't allow it. She stood her ground and said he would have to divorce her to get married again. Mother said no problem and while insulted her saud plenty of pretty women where she lives which sounded like the husband hadn't even found the new lucky woman. RT got involved and chased the husband and his mother away. Now, husband says he is divorcing her and she is glad.
That's basically the relationship background. What's confusing?
Girl had worked for an Indonesian man for 3 years as a housekeeper. 2 years in he son became very ill and was hopitalized. Bill came to a little over 5 juta. The guy she worked for offered to help her and her husband encouraged her to take the help offered. She did and signed a repayment contract. She is uneducated and it ended up being a contract from hell. She did not get paid her 1.25 juta per month for 2 years as repayment. After that he was demanding another 23 juta to pay it off because that is the interest she agreed to. This guy would come to her house every week yelling and screaming outside her home where everyone could hear. She paid him what she could every week. He wanted the paperwork for her mothers house but she was smart enough to say no way. He took her key. Husband never paid a single rupiah towards it saying it was her loan. Husband makes 1 juta a month. RT again gets involved and payoff is now 1.5 juta. She raised that and former employer was to return the next day to get it from her and the RT. He never showed so she has the 1.5 juta and is keeping if and when he returns. She did contact the police about it but they wanted some cash up front to look into it. She is now prepared to finally end this harassment.
Now the weird part. Parents were paid a dowry from the husbands family and oarents basically sold her when she was 15. The only girl. Now that she is getting a divorce her father told her that he has arranged for her to have a new husband as soon as the divorce is final. The father is being paid quite a bit for her, again. The new guy has one wife and is 70 years old but hey, he has money. She told her father that she had no plans to remarry at this time and just wants to build a life for her and her children. Father wasn't going for that and has already given his permission to the new husband to be, for a price of course.
She us now trying to find a kos away from where her family lives. Since she has said she has no plans to remarry, she has been beaten by her drug using older brother and insulted by a younger brother who both live at home and she does their laundry and feeds them. One other older married brother came back from Java and basically put her down very badly. Strange thing since while her father works 500 rebu a month and her mother works, 1.5 juta a month, she pays the bills and does all laundry for everyone. Feeds most daily. She does this by working a number of odd jobs around her neighborhood. None of her brothers give a single rupiah to her parents. The drug user has no job, the younger one cleans ACs.
Evidently at this time she is staying with a friend. Family has contacted about everyone they know of who knows her about her wearabouts. If anyone does know they don't seem to be admitting it to them.
My question would be, if she was married and gets divorced, would that not make her a single oarent who is Independent of her parents? How can a parent be allowed to basicall sell and then resell their daughter? A daughter they never supported and she basically supported much of their needs. I think the parents are seeing the cash as well as the brothers and feel they can take these liberties.
Just another reason I feel girls need a lot more support and opportunities here.